Empty Chairs at Thanksgiving

My recollections of sitting around the dinner table at Thanksgiving are filled with potent memories, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins galore. Eventually, the table configuration added my own family; a wife and children. As the passage of time added people to the table, it also took some away. In my mind’s eye, there are … Continue reading Empty Chairs at Thanksgiving

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21 Statements a Successful Marriage Makes…

Marriage says, "Dear love of my life, ... ... I want to experience life with you until death parts us." ... I do not know what the future holds but whatever comes my way and whatever comes your way, we will face it together." ... I want to make the most of this relationship." ... I'm in this … Continue reading 21 Statements a Successful Marriage Makes…

Its a Short Life

I have to admit, reluctantly......very reluctantly, that at my age I probably have fewer years left to live than those that have already passed. That means I’m on the downward side of life. During my time on earth I have learned that life is precious, precarious, —and short. My understanding of this fact of life stands … Continue reading Its a Short Life

Really? A Night at the Theatre about a Terminal Illness

I enjoy live theater. There is something about the live interaction and the energy between the characters and the audience that draws me into the experience. Last week I visited a local theater to watch the world premier of a play. On this occasion, the story was set in a hospital waiting room where a woman … Continue reading Really? A Night at the Theatre about a Terminal Illness

Grief: States not Stages

It has been said that grief from the death of a loved one is very individualized and personal. If it hasn’t been said then I just said it! While it is true that grief is individualized there is enough similarity in everyone’s grief to be able to understand most grief journeys. I said able, not easy. My … Continue reading Grief: States not Stages

Long Live Romantic Love

I know this is a big secret but I thought I should divulge my bias.... I'm a big fan of romance. I have seen first hand the powerful positive impact life-long romance can have on a marriage. With all of this bias in mind, along with some insight from relationship science, I recently wrote the … Continue reading Long Live Romantic Love

Widowerhood, Withouts, and Thankfulness

It’s the eve of Thanksgiving and I just put down a book, Intimate Relationships, which talks mostly about marriage. It’s one of those scholarly type books that one doesn’t just breeze through. The section I read tonight talked about the dissolution of marriage and loss. Interestingly, the topic of widows and widowers was mentioned, all … Continue reading Widowerhood, Withouts, and Thankfulness

Relationship Intimacy

For many the word “intimacy” brings thoughts of THAT part of the marital relationship to mind. However, in a marriage relationship THAT is only part of the overall concept of intimacy. Sorry to disappoint—and lose about half of the readers—but intimacy is a principal element in all healthy relationships. In the simplest terms intimacy can … Continue reading Relationship Intimacy