As a reader of this blog you may or may not know that my wife died of pancreatic cancer earlier this year. So it has been a year of firsts, including, at least mentally, recognizing the monthly anniversary of her passing. I almost missed yesterday; it was the 10 month anniversary. Interestingly, it didn't dawn … Continue reading Boom!
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Fingers and Single Parenting
Fingers… reddened joints. swollen. painful. I’m caregiving again. To an elderly person with Rheumatoid Arthritis you might ask. I would answer, nope, just to my pre-teen son suffering an allergic reaction to some medication. Caregiving or at least worry includes a couple of sleepless nights checking often to make sure he’s still breathing. This activity … Continue reading Fingers and Single Parenting
To Mom or Not to Mom?
"My stomach hurts." "I don't want to practice my saxophone anymore." "Can I have a friend come over? I’ll clean my room later." "What's for lunch?" These are pretty straight forward statements and questions. But not always an easy response. I've noticed that I have to pause a moment to think--and wish Carrie were here--about … Continue reading To Mom or Not to Mom?
Youth Milestones Toward Maturity
Milestones are useful markers in many areas of one’s life as they offer guidance and give a standard which allows evaluation of one’s course. For parents, some of the most important areas include milestones for spiritual development and mastery of adulthood tasks. Milestones for Spiritual Development Parents who follow Christ recognize that leading their children … Continue reading Youth Milestones Toward Maturity
Anniversary
(Note: The following was written by me for our Church newsletter in February 2009. This was long before I knew that I would be a widow. None the less, the marriage principles I wrote about are still true today.) Remember the excitement of a birthday during childhood? For me the anticipation almost equaled Christmas. I … Continue reading Anniversary
A Husband as Caregiver
A Caregiver is a superhero PDF handout (don't miss the PDF above...)I recall one of the early visits to the cancer treatment center when my late wife, Carrie, was receiving a typical six to seven hour chemotherapy treatment. The oncology social worker, Kathleen, stopped by to talk. Kathleen encouraged me to stay involved with my wife during … Continue reading A Husband as Caregiver
Widowered Father
The dishes need to be washed. Laundry is piled in front of the washer. My youngest, affectionately called "the boy" in this blog, normally a healthy child is sick again—three times in the last two months. And I’m still trying to finish painting the front room. Then I was asked how I’m adjusting to being a widower … Continue reading Widowered Father
Relationship Intimacy
For many the word “intimacy” brings thoughts of THAT part of the marital relationship to mind. However, in a marriage relationship THAT is only part of the overall concept of intimacy. Sorry to disappoint—and lose about half of the readers—but intimacy is a principal element in all healthy relationships. In the simplest terms intimacy can … Continue reading Relationship Intimacy
The begining….
The idea of blogging began as a necessity when my late wife was ill with pancreatic cancer. During the first operation I received so many texts and emails and phone calls offering encouragement and asking for updates that setting up a blogging site was the only efficient way to communicate about our life. As we journeyed through … Continue reading The begining….
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